I’ve always ignored Mother’s Day and for most of my life, it’s pained me seeing it being so in your face this time of year. But this year I’m taking it back for me and declaring it for those who mother going forward.
Not having a mother still hits me out of the blue sometimes but it was most painful when I was little. But at 30 years old I’m used to it and Mothers Day doesn’t serve as a painful reminder of what I don’t have anymore.
It’s a really nice feeling and it’s a relief not to feel pained about Mother’s Day anymore. I feel horrible for those who do and I totally understand as I spent many years feeling upset by reminders.
I did really want a family once, most people want that don’t they. But having a body that betrayed me pretty early on in life I thought it may not happen, now I’ve accepted that I won’t ever have children of my own – and that’s ok.
So I don’t have a mother and won’t be a mother in the conventional sense but does that mean that I can’t be a mother in other ways? no it doesn’t. I have a beautiful niece who is also my goddaughter and a nephew, I love them beyond measure and have always treated them like they’re my own children.
I also have a cat who I rescued over a year ago and that I’ve cared for since she was 8 weeks old. She isn’t my blood or even the same species but she feels like my daughter, and to me she is. I’m not sure why I never felt like a mother before I rescued Sabrina but I just didn’t.
Mother verb [T] (PARENT)
To treat someone with kindness and affection and try to protect that person from danger or difficulty.
– Oxford Dictionary
A lot of people who are vegan or have ‘pets’ will understand this but some people may think that’s silly. I don’t think anything that makes someone happy and giving your love to an animal is silly.
I think Mothers Day can be for all kinds of Mothers though not just the conventional kind. So whether you’re a Mother, Grandmother, Step Mum, single Dad, Auntie, parent of a lost child, Godparent, adoptive parent, a parent of animals and anything in between, THERE IS a place for you to be appreciated and loved this Mothers Day.
I hope the people in your life will make you feel special this month. UK Mother’s Day is Sunday 14th March 2021
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To all Mother’s in every circumstance
What a lovely blog post Siobhan! I love the honest and real voice I find in your posts. It was so beautiful to read about your personal growth here, so beautiful!
Charli
Aww thank you so much Charli. This was a totally honest and unedited kind of thing. x
This is a lovely post! I’m sorry to hear about your story. I can somewhat relate in a way, I lost my mom when I was 14 so mother’s day hasn’t really been the same for me for a while, pains me actually since I can’t celebrate with her anymore physically. Nowadays, I use that day to really to celebrate her and remember all the great things about her and also celebrate my dad as well as he’s always been there for me. Holidays like these can be a struggle for many people but it’s great that you found a way to celebrate it. I wish you nothing but the best xx
I resonate so much with what you’ve said. I lost my mother when I was young and it still hurts, but Mothers Day is now a time to celebrate those in my life who are there for me, not just mothers.
Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk
Oh I’m so glad to see people are enjoying the post! And I’m pleased you agree. I’ve seen more and more brands getting on board with this concept which is really nice to see this year. x