Too many people with mental health problems are made to feel isolated, worthless and ashamed. Time to Talk Day is a chance for all of us to be more open about mental health – to talk, to listen, to change lives. Wherever you are – at home, at work or up the top of a mountain! Have your conversation about mental health today. – Time to change
I’m laying in bed on this Thursday afternoon thinking about how motivation and getting up every day has escaped me of late. As bad as it feels at times it also feels comfortable and is my ‘happy place’. I can surround myself with food, books, a charger and my iPhone giving me everything I could want for a lazy day that feels like a weekend, but in the middle of the week.
I’ve kept falling into this sort of funk and have moments of saying it’s ok don’t beat yourself up and then other times where I feel like a lazy failure and asking myself what the hell am I doing. I do things when I can and have moments of incredible productivity and the lowest lows of binge-watching greys anatomy, not showering and refusing to leave the house.
We all have our ways of coping and our own behaviours. I feel embarrassed by the low times and things I do (and mostly don’t do) but we survive the best way we know how. I say do whatever gets you through the day and celebrate every small victory. Yesterday I went to the shop, took the rubbish out, picked up a parcel and showered. That’s the most I’ve done in the real world for probably about 2 weeks now and that’s totally normal for me. It felt great and like such a big achievement.
I talk to my readers and friends online every day and that keeps me connected to people, to the outside world. Talking doesn’t have to be in person or about what you’re feeling or going through. Some people like to avoid talking about their problems altogether and a distraction from their reality helps. I prefer to write about whats going on with me than talk about it but I can do either. Any sort of communication is good and opens a powerful dialogue of understanding and acceptance. I think we all beat ourselves up more than others.
I don’t feel lonely or like I do need to talk to someone but someone else might feel that way, someone else might be struggling. Like a lot of people I have my moments of staring at train tracks or desperately wanting a drink, I often keep those dark thoughts inside so no one would know. But I’ve found my own ways of coping and keeping those thoughts under control.
If you notice a person withdrawing or if they seem like they could use a coffee and a chat reach out. I have people I would love to do that with now but I can’t because they’re gone. You don’t know what will save people or make the biggest difference, you owe it to yourself and them to try. Otherwise, you could be left wondering what if for the rest of your life. What If you could’ve done something?
However you communicate today, whether it’s through writing, video chat or text let’s open a dialogue. That’s the first step and it could help someone more than you realise.
I hope you managed to get through the day, and tomorrow and the many after that.
Thanks for being here. You rock!
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