Last week I attended the launch of Belong Cons event series on
Before I even went I knew I would love the event and found the speakers and topics fascinating. I totally relate to sologomy and have been on my own journey of self-discovery
I have been in a committed relationship with myself for 28 years but only in the past 2 have I really explored loving myself (no not masturbation). I’m talking about it in all its forms. Taking care of your mind, body and soul, loving yourself first and foremost. After all the relationship we have with ourselves is the longest and most important relationship we’ll ever have.
What are The Self Love Sessions?
The Self Love Sessions explore topics relating to our relationship with ourselves, and how this affects our sense of belonging. This is a unique opportunity to listen to authentic, inspiring stories in an open, honest, and safe space. Topics will include life as a parent, toxic masculinity, body positivity, and are crafted to help us inquire further into the relationship
The Self Love Sessions #1 – Love Yourself First
The first ever BelongCon Presents: The Self Love Sessions with the theme ‘Love Yourself First’ and took place on the International Day of Self Love on the 13th February, which just happens to be the day before Valentine’s Day!
*Speakers include Michelle Robertson, Sophie Tanner, Joshua Vine, Lucy Rowett, Robert Potter, Charlotte Maria. Hosted by Sophie Turton.
It was an intimate event hosted in The Nightingale Room at Grand Central, Brighton and was like an informal conversation about self-love. I was eager to hear from Author of ‘Reader, I Married Me’ Sophie Tanner aka The Sologomist.
She is an absolutely fascinating woman with a great story of self-discovery and love. I’m currently reading her wonderful book which is available on Amazon now and will be launching this May!
Michelle Roberton: Body Love & Intimacy
Michelle is a Tantric Teacher, bodyworker and counsellor for adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. She has shared her work for 16 years, specialising in Sexual Trauma & Intimacy from the experience of her own inner alchemy. Her passion stems from her own journey of discovering the medicine in the poison as she set it upon herself to reclaim her body, her breath, her sexuality and sensuality and express that in new, life-enriching ways.
Michelle talked about how to create a relationship of body love and that intimacy that starts with you. She also explored how what we feel about our bodies sits as unspoken words and holds us away from feeling a satisfied woman in our own skin and bones, and guards us from being truly seen and met in our true and fabulous self.
Sophie Tanner: How do I love me
Sophie is a Brighton-based author and ardent ambassador of self-love. In 2015 she married herself in a public cultural ceremony in Brighton. Her novel, ‘Reader, I Married Me’, is loosely based on her own experience of sologamy.
In her talk ‘How Do I Love Me?’ Sophie
Joshua Vine: Confidence and Cabaret
Joshua Vine is a Co-founder and Co-Artistic Director of SeriousFools Performance Company. He is also the Associate Cabarets Director at Pests Production. In addition to this, he is also the animating essence of the Car Boot Cabaret family’s resident gin enthusiast and mad auntie, Cilly Black.
He discussed how belonging to the cabaret community has taught just how to love whichever version of himself he is that day. Whether it be owning the fact that his dress has just got that little bit tighter, or having the courage to speak his truth even in the most unlikely of situations.
Lucy Rowett: Why self-love means putting your pleasure first
Lucy is a sex and relationship coach and clinical sexologist who is passionate about helping people release their sexual shame and embrace their full pleasure potential. She believes in breaking the stigma around sexuality so you can have those difficult conversations and communicate authentically. She uses her warmth and infectious humour to help her clients step into who they really are as sexual beings.
I absolutely loved Lucy and really enjoyed her talk. I totally understood what she was saying and try to live my life appreciating everything and taking pleasure in life’s daily moments, no matter how small or insignificant you might think they are.
Robert Potter: Learning to love being a beautiful contradiction
Robert works in television subtitling and provides live transcriptions for deaf people. He is a resident of Hove and wouldn’t want to live anywhere else.
He discussed his struggles with communication and why he blamed it on being an introvert. How increasing his own self-confidence over a decade enabled him to both re-discover his extroverted side and finally treasure his introverted self.
Ask the Expert Panel – A Q&A with Charlotte Maria: The Neuroscience of Heartbreak
Charlotte Maria took us on a journey through the mind to understand why heartbreak hurts so damn much and what we can do to stave the pain and cravings to create more positive neurological pathways.
I’ve always found love/heartbreak and the link with oxytocin really interesting. I’m the sort of person that reads about neurolinguistic programming for fun though.
Is presents some really interesting questions and really gets you thinking. The Q&A was really great to create an inclusive dialogue and allow people to express and understand themselves better.
A little bit about Belong Con…
The Belong Conversation (aka BelongCon) was founded in 2017 as a way of bringing people together to discuss and discover the power of finding belonging, acceptance, and community.
At each live event, we welcome a panel of passionate, inspiring, diverse speakers to share their personal stories.
Belonging can be found in many different ways and places, and our speakers have covered a range of subjects including mental health, bereavement, homelessness, activism, travelling, minimalism, spirituality, motherhood, and friendship.
At the end of each event, we invite the audience to join the conversation, whether they want to ask questions, share their own experiences, or seek advice and support.
The ultimate aim for each event is to provide a safe space for people to be vulnerable, so that every single person leaves feeling inspired, uplifted, supported, and connected.
At the event I got talking to Rachel Davis a fascinating woman with an incredible story ‘The Woman, The Boy and The Butterfly’, she’s actually speaking at the next Belong Con event. Get your tickets and check out the event info here.
Rachel Davis is the founder of LaLa Tigers and creator of the Raise a Tiger Programme. She is also an NLP Practitioner, Coach & Hypnotherapist, a musician and a mother of two. Rachel combines the power of the mind with the awesome power that is music, to encourage connection and internal structure in families and children aged 2-7 years.
I hope you found this a great overview of the event and Belong Con. If you’re a fellow Brightonian or live in surrounding areas of Sussex I hope you’ll come along to an event. I think you will really get something out of it that you didn’t expect.
They’re always looking for inspiring speakers to join in facilitating these important conversations. If you have something to say, get in touch at [email protected]
*I received a free ticket to cover the event but this in no way biases my opinion. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
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